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The Cash-Strapped Parent’s Guide to Christmas: How to Have a Merry Christmas For Free

November 10, 2008

I walked into Wal-Mart this weekend and was met with Christmas displays and trees. As I walked down the aisles I heard the Christmas music playing softly in the background. I admit that I was a little agitated that Thanksgiving has been completely ignored or at best got one day of attention (probably on the day nobody really went shopping).

I got over the agitation and proceeded with my shopping. But it was not without thinking about the thousands of single moms out there who feel burdened by the Christmas holidays. I’ve faced this dread myself in years past. I know what it’s like to wonder where I’ll get the money to buy gifts for my kids. Several times I’ve made the decision to only purchase one gift or no more than three (in the spirit of Christ’s birth). As much as I wanted to give my precious little ones everything they wanted I just couldn’t. I didn’t have the money because I needed to pay the rent or car note. I needed to make sure there was food in the house for the days after Christmas.

There are so many moms like me out there who need a helping hand this year. So I’ve done some research and came up with a pretty long list of resources. These are organizations that help needy families during the Christmas holidays. They give toys and sometimes clothes to families that need a helping hand during this time of year.

Most of the organizations have local chapters so you will have to contact the one nearest you for more information. Please don’t be shy about calling. They are there to help and often are looking for people to help. The more localized the better for you. Also remember to get a head start on applying for help. Some deadlines have already passed but try anyway. Your persistence will pay off.

Toys for Tots – this organization has many local chapters. Their deadline in some places was in October but they are still taking applications. If they have toys left you will be contacted.

Angel Tree – This program is for kids who have parents in prison.
Salvation Army – Contact your local chapter for information about their program. They don’t collect money in those little red pails for nothing. You just may be one of the families they help this year.

Shiners/Lions/Masons – These organizations are famous for the help they give to children. Call your local office and find out when and where they are taking applications.
St. Vincent de Paul/Catholic Charities – These Catholic organizations help people year around. They have offices in many locations so call and find out where you can go for help.

VFW/American Legion – Your local organization may have a Christmas toy donation program. Be sure to call and find out.

County Help Lines – Your county help line may have information about other local organizations that are helping the needy this Christmas. To find your state or county helpline, Google “[your state] + helpline”. It may show up as a crisis hotline but they may also have information that you can use.

Local Churches – There are likely churches in your area that are collecting toys to give to needy families. Open the phone book and call the churches near you and ask if they have a program. Find out how to get on the list.

Local Businesses – I worked for a large corporation that collected toys every year for needy families. They may work in cooperation with other charitable organizations but many may offer direct help. Look in the newspaper for announcements and call a few to learn about which companies are helping the needy. Also ask your friends if they their companies have programs.

Libraries/Banks – The local library and banks often have Angel or Giving Trees. Ask how you can get your kids’ names on the tree to receive Christmas gifts this year.

United Way – this organization is the umbrella unit of hundreds of charitable organizations. Call your local office and find out what programs they have to help kids for Christmas. I’m sure they can point you in the right direction.

There are likely many more resources out there you just have to investigate the options. Please do not be put off by the word “needy”. It is not an indication of you as a person but a temporary status. We are living in tough economic times right now so everyone is struggling. Fortunately you now have a few resources now to help give your kids a great Christmas.

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Thank You President-Elect Obama (An Open Letter from a Single Mom)

November 5, 2008

Dear President-Elect Barack Obama,

My heart is singing right now because now my 8 year old son has the chance to become the President of the United States of America one day. If not the president of the USA, perhaps the president of a corporation or the president of his own company.

My son is a struggling second grader at Manning Oaks Elementary. He is a little black boy who seems to have so many odds stacked against him. I am a single mother and like your mother I want the best for my son. I want to see him rise up and become a great man. I showed him your picture today and he saw clips of you on the news. I told him that your name is Barak Obama and that you are our new President. He asked me if he could do that too and I proudly and honestly told him Yes! Yes he can grow up and become president because today we have seen that in America it is possible for a black man to be elected by the people, for the people.

I am thankful to you Mr. Obama for being courageous enough to share your story. Thank you for never giving up amidst all the mudslinging and hateful rhetoric. Your eloquence and intelligence, your firm commitment to rise above the fray has inspired me to teach my son to do the same. I may have to struggle day after day to motivate my son to get his lessons just like your mother did for you. I may have to cry many days and nights because I am exhausted, but I will. I have a dream though, a vision of greatness for my son just like I am sure your mother had for you.

You have made your mother proud and have proven that the sons of single moms do not all grow up to be thugs and drug dealers. They don’t have to be behind bars but, like you, they can pass the bar and go on to teach others how to do the same. The son of a single mother can become the President of the United States of America. A little black boy with wide-eyed dreams, and who now wants me to buy him books, can be whatever he wants to be.

So thank you again Mr. Obama—President-Elect Obama for standing strong. For listening to your mother and for being the change you wanted to see in the world. You have inspired me, you have inspired the world and we stand behind you to re-build America so that my son can have a better future!

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Did You Vote? Your Lone Voice Counts!

November 5, 2008

Today is one of the most important days in history. Are you a part of that history? Did you get out and vote? If you are reading this post and it’s still Tuesday, November 4, 2008, then you probably still have time to get out and vote. Don’t waste this opportunity to have a say in who leads your city, state, and country.

Women have fought for the right to have equal pay for equal work, the right to work, and numerous other rights. The right to vote is monumental in our lives. Sometimes it seems like the choices we are a choice between the lesser of two evils. It seems discouraging but I urge you to look deep within your heart and look deep within the eyes of your children and do what is right for the both of you.

As a woman and mother you are the most powerful person in the lives of your children. They depend on you to be a good example. I’m sure that if they are in school they are hearing about the election and may be asking questions. Some may have had mock elections in their schools and proudly exercised their right to vote. My daughter asked me if I voted and a smile and nod of approval crossed her face when I told her that I did.

Being a part of the democratic process is a wonderful feeling. Your vote counts and it will make all the difference in your little world. Your kids will be proud!

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The Best Birthday Ever!

September 23, 2008
These are the words that make any mom happy and I’m sure you’re no exception. But sometimes planning an elaborate birthday can be expensive and stressful. So here is a great way to make sure your child has a great birthday the next time around.
You can sign them up for the numerous kid’s birthday clubs sponsored by national and local restaurants. Here are a few that I’ve found and believe me I am going to sign up my kids. They will get coupons for a free meal and/or dessert as well club goodies in the mail.
So go ahead and get them signed up right now. Hint: Get an auto-filler program like the one Google has or Roboform to fill out all those forms. It will save time and effort. Most clubs are for kids 12 and under but some have a cut off of 10 and under.
Here’s the list:

Restaurants:

Moe’s Southwest Grill

Kids Eat Free on Monday nights – one free kids meal for each adult entree purchased
Also join Mini-Moe’s Birthday Club for a free Kids Meal at Lunch or Dinner for your Birthday

Coldstone Creamery Birthday Club
Register and get a free “Creation” for your birthday – coupon has 14 day expiration window

California Pizza Kitchen
Register in Advance
– Children 10 and under can get a free meal during the month of their birthday

Baskin Robbins Birthday Club
Register in Advance
– Free 2.5 oz. Scoop of ice cream on your birthday

Burger King

Join to get great offers at participating BURGER KING® Restaurants plus cool birthday surprises on your special day.

Boston Market Birthday Club
Register in advance
– Coupon for a free kids meal, drink and dessert
http://www.bostonmarket.com/specials?page=kidsBirthdayClub

Red Lobster’s Overboard Club
Register in advance
Get a special gift on your birthday and other discounts throughout the year

Bob Evans Birthday Club
Register in Advance
Get a free kids meal for your birthday

Red Robin E-Club
Register in Advance
A free gift for signing up and a free Burger on your Birthday


Shoney’s
12 years old or younger, you can join the Cub Club


Famous Daves
FamousDaves BBQ Bdayclub TX OK ND SD NE MN IA WI IL OH IN KY CO TN AL GA VA MD NJ DE Free GC On Your Birthday from Famous Daves BBQ Birthday Club

Captain D’s


Abbott’s Frozen Custard

Get a free frozen Custard on your birthday.

Firehouse Subs

Join the Firehouse Subs Birthday Club and enjoy a free sub on your birthday.


Friendly’s Restaurant

Free Kids’ Meal which includes a Friendly’s Kids’ Sundae, sign up for the Friendly’s Birthday Club.


Marble Slab

Free Child’s Size Ice Cream Cone, with Mixin, for each of your birthdays, through age 12.


Panchos Mexican Buffet

Join the Birthday Fiesta Club and on your next birthday you’ll be a Pancho’s guest for free lunch or dinner. (Arizona, Louisiana, New Mexico, Oklahoma & Texas locations)


Ryans

Free Birthday and Anniversary coupons, plus get a Free meal for joining their club.


Sonic

Your child will receive a birthday greeting for a FREE Wacky Pack kids’ meal during the week of his or her birthday.


Taco Time

Kids 12 years of age or younger can receive a coupon for a free Kids Meal on their next birthday! (Northwest area only)

Zaxby’s Birthday Club

http://www.zaxbys.com/bday.html

Marie Callender’s:

For the birthday child, they will receive a birthday post card and it’s good for a free kids meal along with a free kids treat from the bakery! Visit your local Marie Callender’s or fill this out online. (Adults, you too can fill this offer out and receive $5 off your meal and receive a free piece of pie for your birthday!)


Other Stores:

Toys R Us

Geoffrey’s Birthday Club is for children up through age 10.


The Picture People

Sign up for their Birthday Club and you’ll receive special offers in the mail for your child’s special day.


Olan Mills

A perfect way to record your child’s growth. Simply sign up, and have your child’s portrait taken every year on his or her birthday, up until 3 years of age.


Hollywood Video

Come in for a free Hollywood Film Library® rental on your birthday


Kids Talk

Kids Talk is especially for boys and girls 12 years of age and younger.


Hot Wheels
Hot Wheels Birthday Club!


Oogles ‘n Googles

A birthday club. Enjoy!

Rich Single Momma

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Stress Management for Single Moms

September 12, 2008

Are you stressing? I know as a single mom stress often creeps on me and lingers for longer than I want it to. It gets so bad at times that I just want to crawl under my covers and never come out. When I was younger I handled stress better, meaning it did not take such a physical toll on my body. These days it’s a different story.

Lately when I get stressed I get insomnia. I either go right off to sleep then wake up at 3am or have trouble falling asleep then waking up at 2am. My mind rolls on endlessly about all the things I have to do or problems that are happening at the time.

The other physical effects of stress for me are loss of appetite, stomach ache, and if it’s really serious I completely miss my monthly cycle. Some would cheer over that last symptom, but it’s not fun (especially if you’re not active if you know what I mean). A couple years ago my doctor announced that I was pre-menopausal or had prematurely entered menopause. I was having all the symptoms of a woman going through “the change”.

So I’ve had to find ways to cope that don’t involve drugs. I tend to be pretty health conscious and am always looking for a natural alternative. There are several things I do to relieve the stress but the most effective thing I do is incorporate lavender in my life. Some of you may have seen the baby wash commercials a while back that claim to soothe your baby to sleep. Well let me tell you that it works for adults too. Since I have been using lavender I fall asleep and stay asleep. I feel rested and much better.

You can read more about it on my Squidoo lens. When you finish reading it please rate it and leave a comment. If you’d like to know more about the other natural alternatives I use let me know so we can get you to a peaceful place.